familia

There are patterns and truths that are part of Nature's plan. The family is one. We aren't all afforded the benefit of that ancestral family structure, father and mother. I fortunately was, and even though there's an intrinsic truth to the dynamic balance of masculine/feminine in raising a complete child, families come in all variations - masculine/feminine no longer entailing male and female. Gender identity, the past. The concept that the physical act of sex consummates the concept of love plays a problematic role in this distortion of family and relationship. As is the concept of monogamy, or rather changeless monogamy. We can have multiple lovers throughout the course of our life. If we weren't bound by this sexual fallacy, many of us would experience the serendipity of having several soulmates in his or her lifetime.

Back to where I was, the family structure. This structure is Nature's aiding platform, its guiding hand in our personal journey to becoming who we are meant to become, to becoming real. As humans, we need reference points. We strive on association. This is how we construct and learn. When we are born, we have our family. For better or worse, our first reference to understanding what a human is. Family enables us to relate. It gives us that foundation to begin building and discovering our true self. As we mature into adulthood, we are able to unrelate, to be comfortable alone, to be comfortable in silence and at one with ourselves. Once this great work is achieved, we are at 2 - one and everything.